Does shyness hold you back?
Sometimes you may feel like being trapped by your inner critic voice. In this case, you don’t need to suppress it, nor do you need to escape it…you just need to notice it!
If you are shy, you may probably have experienced the feeling of fearing judgments and rejections of others: how do you usually react? You possibly avoid them and start saying critical things to yourself that you would never say to anyone else. The pain of shyness is both created by self-critical thoughts and by our efforts to avoid those thoughts. The problem is that the very effort to escape thoughts usually intensifies them.
What to do then? Well, you can simply let painful thoughts be and instead use your energy into what you value in life. Moreover, you could practice daily meditation in order to learn to look at yourself with awareness rather than criticism. The practice of mindfulness can help you come into a healthier reltionship with painful thoughts. What is mindfulness?
- Moment-to-moment awareness
- Stop avoiding the thoughts that scare you
- Compassionate awareness
- Opening to the fullness of being
- Generous of spirit
“If you wish to be loved, love“, Seneca said. You can’t give love to Others if you can’t give it to yourself!